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Are you waiting for life to happen?

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This seems to be a fairly common theme for a lot of people.

That they’re hoping something, often not created by them, will happen to make their life feel better.

They have an idea that there will be a lucky break at some point.

The truth is, even if opportunities do arise you need to be ready to take them.

To be interested & curious to see where things can lead.

You may discover that something you’ve followed up hasn’t led anywhere in particular. That’s fine, as even just doing something for yourself will feel better than doing nothing.

If you can, do things today.

A lot of people will start it tomorrow, whatever it is. Then of course, there’s always another tomorrow.

The sooner you take action to at least research the thing your interested in, the sooner you might be able to actually do it.

This is how you’ll make your life feel meaningful & purposeful. Get momentum going.

To feel you’re filling it with good, interesting stuff. Not waiting for others to suggest/do it for you.

This is how to feel empowered. To know you’re capable & competent of meeting your needs.

Curiosity

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How often do you feel curious?

How often do you follow up on your curiosity?

There are many people who are interested in knowing & doing more, but never get around to putting it into action.

They’re then left with the classic “what if” feelings as time goes on.

There is a way to avoid this.

The more you follow up ideas you have, the more you’ll discover it doesn’t take much time or effort.

As long as you explore the options open to you, you’ll get to feel that you’re pursuing your ideas.

You might choose not to go ahead in the end, but at least you’ll know why not.

However, you might discover your idea is workable. That the activity you fancied trying is local to you & not as expensive as you thought.

If you then give it a go you’ll know for sure if it is something you’d like to do or not.

You get to avoid the “what ifs” in your life.

You get to build up the experiences you’ve had in your life.

You will start to feel more fulfilled & accomplished.

This builds your feeling of wellbeing & contentment.

Wonder about things, follow up your curiosity. See where it takes you…

Belief

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A small word, many connotations.

I’m taking it here in it’s broadest sense. To believe in anything.

Belief can therefore enhance or restrict your life.

The main reason for this is that once we hold a belief we look for evidence to back it up.

If you believe you can achieve a desired goal, then you’ll find examples to show you’re doing just that. You’ll use this belief to push you forward and potentially realise what you’re after.

If your belief is that you’re not able to do something, then you’ll find evidence to confirm that view. Thus reducing your likelihood of achieving things you’d like in your life.

This applies to literally anything in your life.

Career aspirations, perfecting a hobby, finding a partner…the list is endless.

What’s critical is that you become aware of your beliefs.

That you learn to shape them and work with them.

Be open to new ideas and the full range of evidence in front of you.

Ensure you don’t underestimate yourself, learn what you’re capable of. Increase your self-belief & knowledge.

Mix in a little humility and the ability to acknowledge real world factors and you’ll find most things are possible.